by mike haines
PART I: MARK MANSON LIED TO YOU
1. If you’re a serious student of game, you have read Models by Mark Manson.
In my opinion, it’s the best book on success with women that’s ever been written.
Unfortunately, some of the teachings of this book have been turned into an ideology which many guys in the seduction community now cling to dogmatically.
2. The rejection myth
In this post I am going to annihilate one of the core teachings of Models — an idea which has been embraced as revealed truth in the seduction community for years now.
This is the idea that pursuing women who have rejected you is a “time sink”, and you should simply move on to those who are more interested.
3. The premise of the myth:
Here’s what Mark writes in his book:
“I’ll say this, in six years, after approaching thousands of women, and hooking up with hundreds of them, I can think of less than 10 instances where a woman was flat out unreceptive towards me and I ‘won her over’. If she shuts you down, tells you to go away, tells you she’s not interested, tells you she has a boyfriend—move on. Seriously, get over it and move on. You’re wasting your time. There are 3.1 billion women on this planet. She’s not worth it.”
While this advice is good for beginners, it promotes a DEFEATIST ATTITUDE which will prevent you from getting laid with the most attractive women in the long-run.
Specifically, it will prevent you from attracting and mating with the kind of woman I call a “Total 10”. This is because the highest quality women almost invariably give you the harshest tests, and if you’re inexperienced (or even intermediate), you will misinterpret these tests as “rejection”.
4. My background
I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 18. After my first girlfriend broke things off, I spent 2 years involuntarily celibate.
At 21, I discovered “red pill” ideas (back then it was just called game). I started working on my cold approach skills with a relentless, almost autistic intensity.
I approached about 30 girls a week for some 78 consecutive weeks before I got my first same night lay from cold approach.
From that point, it got easier. I knew game was real, and now it was just a matter of getting more efficient at it.
Soon I was pulling ass every two weeks, more or less, like clockwork. I banged a lot of pretty girls from my college, along with the occasional model, actress or exotic dancer.
Six years later I’m in a long-term relationship with the girl pictured here. We plan on having kids soon.
5. A “Total 10” defined
I’m with a woman who is a Total 10 to me. I want you to be able to do the same.
When I talk about a Total 10, I mean a girl who is (to you) a 10/10 in both looks and personality.
She’s exquisitely beautiful and highly feminine.
She’s the type of girl who’s so pretty that it physically hurts when you see her on another guy’s arm.
This is the kind of woman I want you to be with.
And this is the calibre of woman you will never get if you have internalized the idea that you should only focus on women who make themselves easy to approach.