Rejecting You Is Part Of A Woman’s Process Of Becoming Attracted To You

by mike haines

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1. If you’re a serious student of game, you have read Models by Mark Manson.

In my opinion, it’s the best book on success with women that’s ever been written.

Unfortunately, some of the teachings of this book have been turned into an ideology which many guys in the seduction community now cling to dogmatically.


2. The rejection myth

In this post I am going to annihilate one of the core teachings of Models — an idea which has been embraced as revealed truth in the seduction community for years now.

This is the idea that pursuing women who have rejected you is a “time sink”, and you should simply move on to those who are more interested.


3. The premise of the myth:

Here’s what Mark writes in his book:

“I’ll say this, in six years, after approaching thousands of women, and hooking up with hundreds of them, I can think of less than 10 instances where a woman was flat out unreceptive towards me and I ‘won her over’. If she shuts you down, tells you to go away, tells you she’s not interested, tells you she has a boyfriend—move on. Seriously, get over it and move on. You’re wasting your time. There are 3.1 billion women on this planet. She’s not worth it.”

While this advice is good for beginners, it promotes a DEFEATIST ATTITUDE which will prevent you from getting laid with the most attractive women in the long-run.

Specifically, it will prevent you from attracting and mating with the kind of woman I call a “Total 10”. This is because the highest quality women almost invariably give you the harshest tests, and if you’re inexperienced (or even intermediate), you will misinterpret these tests as “rejection”.


4. My background

I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 18. After my first girlfriend broke things off, I spent 2 years involuntarily celibate.

At 21, I discovered “red pill” ideas (back then it was just called game). I started working on my cold approach skills with a relentless, almost autistic intensity.

I approached about 30 girls a week for some 78 consecutive weeks before I got my first same night lay from cold approach.

From that point, it got easier. I knew game was real, and now it was just a matter of getting more efficient at it.

Soon I was pulling ass every two weeks, more or less, like clockwork. I banged a lot of pretty girls from my college, along with the occasional model, actress or exotic dancer.

Six years later I’m in a long-term relationship with the girl pictured here. We plan on having kids soon.


5. A “Total 10” defined

I’m with a woman who is a Total 10 to me. I want you to be able to do the same.

When I talk about a Total 10, I mean a girl who is (to you) a 10/10 in both looks and personality.

She’s exquisitely beautiful and highly feminine.

She’s the type of girl who’s so pretty that it physically hurts when you see her on another guy’s arm.

This is the kind of woman I want you to be with.

And this is the calibre of woman you will never get if you have internalized the idea that you should only focus on women who make themselves easy to approach.





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Hey… Are You Single?

This is the best infield pickup video  I’ve watched in a long time.

Self-amusement at its finest.

In fact, it’s the single best demonstration of self-amusement I’ve seen committed to video since Julien got his balls cut off.

The fact that there’s no pulls or solid numbers in the video itself is irrelevant.

Study this guy’s style. This is how Jedi level amused mastery in game looks.

Things to notice:

#1. Self-Amusement. This video is MASTER CLASS in making approaching fun, by saying deliberately idiotic things. You can see the girls getting drawn into it. 

#2. Deliberate awkwardness. He is making things DELIBERATELY hard on himself, such as by saying things like “what’s up… sucka” and “you saucy little dog”, as well as by pausing between sentences for an unnecessarily long time.

Paradoxically, these demonstrations of “lower value” actually work to INCREASE his value — because they function as an honest signal that he sincerely doesn’t give a fuck about the outcome of the interaction.

3. Loooong ass pauses. He uses LONG pauses to deliberately increase awkwardness and sexual tension. You’d be surprised how far this one trick can go to create attraction out of thin air.

4. Multiple layers of irony. It is not at all clear whether he actually likes any of these girls or is simply mercilessly trolling the fuck out of them. This creates a magnetic vibe which draws the girls in. 

Study this video. There’s a lot to learn.

And yeah, it doesn’t hurt that this guy is a good-looking jock who clearly lifts weights and is probably popular.

But stop whining, you little faggot.

Study the behavior.

Also… I would DESTROY that first girl.

NEW WORLD ORDER, Part III: The Future Of Control

Policemen in riot control gear operating in Lausanne the evening after Christoph Blocher opened the Lausanne Swiss fair (Comptoir suisse)
Image by Rama, via Wiki Commons

How To Succeed In The Coming Global Dictatorship

“If you want a vision of the future, imagine a boot stamping on a human face, forever.” — George Orwell

In Part 1 and Part 2 of this series, I argued that our world is ruled by a “secret government” — composed of powerful elites within finance, banking, and the U.S. military industrial complex.

Furthermore, I said that this “secret government” has a plan for us.

Namely, they want to impose a single World State, or “Planetary Empire”, over the whole surface of the earth.

They never speak of their plan to create a New World Order openly. Instead, they talk in code, using terms like “global governance”.

How will life look under the New World Order?

What will be the implications for politics and society?

What kind of trends can we expect to encounter in culture, in dating, and in entertainment?

And most importantly, how can you succeed in the coming reorganization of society, rather than being crushed underfoot by it as most men will?

Today I will answer these questions.

Here are my predictions for how the world will look under the coming Global Dictatorship — around 15 years from now:

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NEW WORLD ORDER, Part II: War, The Petrodollar, And U.S. Imperial Grand Strategy


This post is the second part of a series about the New World Order. See Part I here. Normally, this blog is about sexual strategy and picking up girls. If you’re more interested in seduction and game, see some of my classic posts.


In the first part of this series, What If The Illuminati Are The Good Guys?, I suggested to you that:

1.  The world is secretly controlled by a small, cohesive oligarchy, centered in international finance and the U.S. military industrial complex.

2.  The ultimate objective of this group is to create a World Government, the primary purpose of which is to protect the free market system and crush resistance to capitalism

3.  The aims of this secret government are basically good, even if their methods are sometimes brutal and unjust

This view of power is particularly useful when trying to assess American foreign policy in the Middle East since 9/11.

Why was the U.S. government so desperate to go into Iraq before they even knew whether or not Saddam had WMDs? 

Why is America currently bombing 7 different countries?

What’s the underlying logic of U.S. intervention in Syria?

And how does U.S. imperialism fit into the context of the “New World Order” that I’ve been describing in this series?

These are the questions I’ll attempt to answer definitively in this post.

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NEW WORLD ORDER, Part I: What If The Illuminati Are The Good Guys?



“He who knows only his side of the case, knows little even of that.”

— John Stuart Mill

This is a blog for men about how to pick up women. Mostly, it deals with the topic of sexual strategy and self-improvement.

But over the coming days, I am going to interrupt our regularly scheduled programming to talk about something completely different.

This series will discuss a popular “conspiracy theory” which states that:

1. There is a group of powerful individuals who are secretly controlling world events behind the scenes

2. This “secret society” is composed of bankers, business magnates, and officials of the military industrial complex

3. The aim of this secret conspiracy is to bring about a “One World Government” which will be ruled through totalitarian means

4. The popular understanding of current events and history is largely based upon ignorance and naivety. In reality, most major world events do not happen spontaneously, but are planned years in advance by a handful of men.

Is there any truth to this so-called “conspiracy theory”?

In my view, there is. 

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How To Get Laid With Hotter Girls… By Viewing Pickup Like A Video Game



This post originally appeared on r/seduction, where it got hundreds of upvotes but was deleted for no reason because one of the mods there is jealous of me. Since then I’ve gotten hundreds of messages asking me where the post went and begging me to repost it somewhere, so if you’re one of those people, enjoy! –Mike

If reality is a simulation, what are the implications for your dating life?

Many physicists, philosophers and technologists now believe that reality is a simulation and that we’re living in a hyper-realistic video game.

The arguments for this hypothesis are surprisingly compelling.

Though the jury is still out on whether our reality is a video game, I’ve found that acting as if it were a video game can yield powerful benefits in your dating life.

As a youngster I was shy, introverted, and didn’t have a girlfriend until I was 18. Through applying the principles I’m about to lay out, I got good at “game” in a fairly quick period of time, and went on to hook up with somewhere between 50-100 women from the age of 20-23.

Now that you know my background, let’s get started.


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We Have A Duty To Offend You (Brendan O’Neill)

Dope speech at Oxford University.

I don’t know about you but this gets my blood pumping.

Every leap forward in history, every freedom we enjoy, is a product of individuals having given “offence” — having offended against the orthodoxies of their age. Offensiveness is not just something we have to grudgingly accept. Offensiveness is the motor of human progress.

Don’t Fuck The Patriarchy

Huffington Post writer argues women should stop giving sex to men who exhibit “toxic masculinity”.

Some of my favorite reactions:

…this article is the equivalent of a beta schlub trying to tell the top 20% of us “don’t fuck the hot girls cuz they were mean to me.” It ain’t gonna happen.

(Via therealpkg)


…you know who the biggest supporters and enablers of “Patriarchy” are? Women.

  • Men are dominant because women fuck the dominant man.
  • Men are violent because women fuck the victor.
  • Men compete for money because women fuck the wealthy man.
  • Men keep women down the hierarchy because women fuck upwards in the hierarchy.

The patriarchal system (i.e. men leading) exists because of women’s nature. The “patriarchy” is enabled by women.

Women complaining about the patriarchy is just women blaming men for something women created.

(Via Auvergnat)



…So yes, women will continue to fuck the Patriarchy. They will slurp on the Patriarchy’s cock and they will lick the Patriarchy’s balls. And then they will ask to be the “little spoon” after.

And the “But…but I’m a Feminist!” douchebags will go home and beat off.

(Via Vasily)


Get Laid Like A Warlord: The 37 Rules of Approaching Model-Tier Girls

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This guide was originally posted on r/TheRedPill, where it quickly received 2,845 upvotes, making it that community’s most popular post of all time (as of this writing). Today, it was mentioned in an article in Mel Magazine — which reminded me to post it here for posterity’s sake. Enjoy.

A complete guide to picking up 9s and 10s

Today I want to tell you everything I know about getting the highest calibre girls from cold approach.

This guide will cover: frame control, inner game, and passing tests — which I consider to be the holy trinity of “9 and 10 game”.

This guide will NOT cover: body language, pulling, or handling logistics.

Obviously, the latter are extremely important, but they’ve been adequately covered elsewhere, and there just isn’t space to include them here.

My background

Picked on in school, small and sickly, didn’t have a girlfriend until 18. Was dumped by her and spent the first 2 years of college pretty much celibate.

Started going out and approaching regularly. Approach anxiety and ceaseless rejection for months, but I kept at it. The odd success here and there.

After about 2 years I was fucking a new girl every fortnight or so, mostly 7s and 8s with the occasional turbo when fortune smiled on me. My current girlfriend is a 9, has done modelling etc.

Below is everything I know about getting the hottest women from cold approach pickup…


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