BY MIKE HAINES
Originally posted on r/seduction. See Part I here.
Last week I wrote a controversial post on this sub, provocatively entitled, “How to date out of your league and get 9s and 10s (and why most of you won’t)”.
Though it was upvoted hundreds of times and was by far the most popular thing I’ve ever posted here, responses to the piece were sharply divided.
After some reflection, I’ve come to the conclusion that many of the criticisms were right. In the original post, I spent a lot of time deconstructing the limiting beliefs which prevent guys from going for 9s and 10s — but I failed to replace them with a new empowering alternative.
This is a topic that means a lot to me because it took me so damn long to figure out and it was an absolute obsession for many years.
So I took the criticisms into account and stayed up all night drinking coffee and wrote this new, more in depth piece in an attempt to make things clearer.
Should you focus on getting the hottest girls?
You don’t have to make getting 9s and 10s a priority.
Everyone gets into this for their own reasons. Getting 9s and 10s was my reason.
If this is your priority, then this post will help you. If it’s not — not to worry. Do you.
However, it is interesting to see the rationalisations that guys will come up with to justify not going for what they really want but are afraid of.
For example, in response to my last post, many guys commented: “I don’t want to date 9s and 10s because they’re crazy”, or “I prefer the girl next door type — they’re usually freaks in bed”, and so on.
Those are all great arguments.
But let me ask you this.
When you jerk off to porn, what girls are you jerking off to?
9s and 10s.
So — on some level — you DO want to have sex with 9s and 10s.
Because when there’s no risk of rejection — from behind the safety of your computer — 9s and 10s are the women you CHOOSE to jerk off to.
So what I would say to guys who claim they’re “above” going for the super hotties: no matter how much you want to lie to yourself that you don’t want these types of girls, your own private behaviour indicates that you do.
And sure, perhaps you’re attracted to them sexually but don’t want to date them. Fine.
But you want to sleep with them, right?
Otherwise you wouldn’t jerk off to porn.
So just swallow your pride and learn how to sleep with them.
It’s really not that hard. Give yourself the gift of learning to get with incredibly beautiful women. I promise you’ll enjoy it 🙂
(Though the fact that this is even a debate at all is baffling to me, quite frankly, lol.)
Continue reading How To Date “Out Of Your League” And Get 9s And 10s (Part II)